Updated: May 28
As I contemplate the holiday of Día de Los Muertos, I feel a great sadness for those that have lost a loved one in an unexpected tragedy. There's a little bit of ease that comes from knowing ahead of time when someone is about to pass, for example when our elderly grandparents have been diagnosed with cancer, and we still have some time to spend with them before they die, but nothing can prepare us for the harsh blow that comes from an unexpected tragedy.
In my own quest for truth and meaning, I discovered past life regression via hypnosis, this experience transformed my way of thinking forever. When I stepped off of the cloud, I saw myself in the galaxy observing sparks fly off of what appeared to be the central Sun, and at that moment, I heard "this is the divine creator," the spark of all creation. My conscious mind thought wow, I am looking at God and God doesn't look anything like a human, more like a fiery ball of energy. Due to this experience, my belief on the matter became one where I believe that each one of us is a spark that originated from the source of all that is, the Godhead that energetically resembles the sun. Perhaps this is why certain ancient societies such as Egypt, worshipped the Sun/Son God Ra, they knew something we forgot; all life comes from the Universal Mind Complex that energetically resembles the Sun. Therefore, it can be said that we are all made up of sparks from the divine creator.
While the material body may die, the soul never dies, that magnificent ball of light, the spark of creation that chooses to incarnate on earth only transforms from matter back into energy as the cycle of life completes. Knowing this fact won't necessarily take the pain of loss away; grief is a process that cannot be rushed, a broken heart is a real thing that takes real time to mend. No matter how we view life and death, we can choose to honor the process of letting go once we realize that our healing journey is our own responsibility. And it may help to know that there is no right or wrong way to process the sadness of loss, so release any judgement about this now. At the same time, our departed loved ones do not want to see any of us stay in the frequency of grief forever, to do this is to risk losing our joy in the present moment within this thing called "life."
“Life is for the living. Death is for the dead. Let life be like music. And death a note unsaid.”
When I took piano lessons, I learned that the pause (silence) between the note was just as important as the sound of the note. Something most of us do not think about unless we have experience with music, so I really appreciate Langston's analogy on the topic.
Join us in Mexico
How many of us celebrate life and death by honoring and remembering our loved ones after they have passed away, not once, but every year? The Mexican holiday of Día de Los Muertos is traditionally a two-day celebration that begins on November 1st in Mexico. Occasionally the celebration starts even earlier on October 31st, this depends on personal preference.
The Day of the Dead is a colorful celebration with festivities that include food, music, face paint and costumes but it is so much more than that. Traditionally, it is a time to make an altar and put photos of our departed loved ones on it and honor them along with the cycles of life and death. This holiday is not about being sad. From an outsider looking in, it looks like a big party. Even if we are not of Mexican descent, we may want to take on the custom of honoring our loved ones through celebration, instead of mourning. This may seem unfathomable for some, especially if they lost a child, or a loved one in an unexpected tragedy, however, we could reframe this to see it as a celebration with them in the spirit world.
This year, I have decided to lead a small group tour to the cultural center of Mexico, to the southern-central state of Oaxaca. This area is home to a large indigenous community, and it is famous for being the best culinary and mezcal destination of Mexico. Not only will we visit some magical places like the ruins at Monte Albán, the sacred Jaguar Hill and the petrified waterfall of Hierve El Agua, we plan to join the cultural celebration of Día de Los Muertos in Oaxaca City to celebrate the lives of our departed loved ones.
And for those seeking private healing sessions, this option will be available to book in advance. For me, this trip is going to be a journey of ancestral healing. I invite anyone that wishes to partake in ancestral healing of their own, along with exploring the cultural center of Mexico, to join us in Oaxaca for our Women's group-tour this:
October 25-November 3rd, 2022.